January 7, 2012
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Like a princess..
Thinking of that little girl fairy tale, that never seems to fade away. My Knight in shining armor, his white horse, me all dressed up like a Princess.. 
Swoops me up and takes me away to a castle. He makes me his. I surrender to him fully in love and in day-to-day life. I am comforted, treated well and supported in anything I take on, and most of all, protected and safe
Happily Ever After.
So, does it really exist? Do you women still think about that fairy tale?
And for you men ~ what is the dream for you? A woman that's in need of rescue such as the fairy tales go, one who is delicate as a rose ~ or ~ one who is strong willed, independant, and in no need of support? What is the "standard" day dream for men? Its funny (not literally) how everyone knows the little girls fairytale of the Prince Charming, or the Knight in Shining Armor, however, hardly any know of the standard fairytale romance for a man.. So, enlighten me! What is it?
Comments (4)
Lol! Great post topic!
Its hard to say, really.
Some men do find remedy in BEING the Prince Charming, although more often than not, that is a serendipitous occurrence, where the man finds himself in the romantic situation only after taking action where a damsel in distress exists. ... Truth be told, however,.. this is quite a rare situation, and hence what makes the fairy tale.
The truth is, most men are, like most women, receptive (rather than assertive) in their dreams of romance. The strong-willed woman who is outgoing and knows what she wants is an ideal scenario. Both of these 'receptive' ideals are usually the one in a million scenarios that don't seem to happen much in real life.
On another hand, I've know a few women who were comfortable hanging out with guy friends, doing a few thing guys would do, and guys tend to find that quite attractive, because not only does the woman stand out as someone really unique, but it is so much easier to communicate with a "Venus" who can speak "Martian". ... Of course, what I usually notice is that a handful of those guy friends are secretly attracted to the woman romantically, and yes, as you can imagine, a sublimital form of competition ensues (sometimes, not sublimital at all). ... In the end, one of those guys is the lucky one who shows her his inner self, or proves himself to be assertive enough and attractive enough himself to be one to take her home and/or win her heart. In the 'romantic dream' sense, finding such a woman, and then being the one who she accepts as a romantic partner is what I would say is the "guys fairytale".
("OMG! She's so awesome! And I love her!!... And she chose me!! 8D I'm so happeh!!!!")
... In the end though, fairy-tale or not, these are all speculations of what ones relationship COULD be, and the universe does not really spoil us that way. In the end, each of us have to find (or not find) romance in our own unique set of circumstances, and see the miracle in it individually. ... This still allows bad things to happen, or things to go wrong, depending on who you are involved with or what the circumstances of the relationship are, but ... that's the stream of life. Sometimes turbulent.
@Pyronide - very well said!
Girls are raised on fairy tails and romance, guys are raised on duty, responsibility, and the belief that we are to be the provider and head of the family. For guys it seems much more like a business arrangement or a contest then a fairy tale. Find a girl that you like the look of, can talk to about life, love, and whatever your passions are, and set about conquering her heart. Some lucky few of us did read a romance or two in our formative years, watched Cinderella, and felt a pull on our souls.
Speaking only for myself, I seek inner beauty, strength of will and beliefs, creativity, and openness. Someone still in love with life and seeking to explore what the world might yet have to offer them. Someone willing to take a chance and fly with me on the wings of fantasy and passion.
Michael
@MichaelR138 - that seems to be the norm for most men I talk to - the duty, responsibility and belief of being the provider & head of the family, you are 'right on' there. I think you put it very well in your last paragraph - what you seek, is indeed, very similar to what most women also seek.
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